'My partner surprised me with a puppy – I've never been so angry in my life'

A woman has sparked a debate after returning a puppy to its breeder when her husband surprised her with it.

The woman, who is in her mid-40s, explained how she returned home from work to see her husband had bought her a puppy as a birthday present. But rather than be excited about the new addition to the family, she vented her anger about the situation.

She said on : "My husband and I are in our mid-40s and have been married 15 years. Two kids 14 and 11. A couple of years ago our senior dog died.

"Since then, we’ve talked about getting another dog but maybe when the kids graduate high school. are a huge commitment and I have no time. Kids activities seven nights a week, and I work two jobs (50 hours total). My husband has a full-time job too, but works from home three days a week.

"Yesterday, I came home to a 'surprise'. A puppy. I felt angry because I made it clear I did not want a dog." Annoyed, she pushed back and reminded him a dog should be a family decision - and not something bought as a surprise. She added: "I felt that he disrespected me. He flew into a rage, threatened separation, and spent the night elsewhere.

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"He came home today and I apologised for suggesting he got the dog because he wanted it, rather than a heartfelt gift. I told him he needed to return the dog." After he mentioned separation again, she decided to take to social media to ask users whether she was in the wrong.

In response, one user said: "If it truly was a gift he would be apologetic he missed the mark so badly. It clearly was not a gift for you, it was something he wanted and opted to do without agreement or consultation. You clearly are not in a position to appropriately care for a puppy and his reaction is concerning. If he wants to separate over this I have to ask, would you be better off?"

Another user added: "You are not wrong for not wanting the dog, as it's a huge commitment. You didn't ask for it and your husband didn't consider your opinion on it. However, I do have a question - Why would your husband threaten separation twice, over a non-issue? Why would he mention that you treat him badly?

"Because this isn't just about the dog, you two have serious issues and need to work on those, if there is any hope for this marriage to survive." A third user said: "Not wrong for the dog situation but there is a whole lot of stuff missing. Nobody threatens separation that deep into a relationship and voices him feeling you treat him badly for no reason. Regarding what he's saying, it isn't about the dog. This seems like the final straw amongst a lot that you aren't mentioning."